Before I met my boyfriend (seahorse) I hadn’t heard of Lemmy or the word Fediverse. I didn’t know there was this world of federated servers people could host independently that communicate with each other. I am by far not a techy. He told me he ran an instance. My response was exactly, “What is Lemmy instance? Idk about such things.” I gave this silly response because I felt a bit stupid due to my ignorance. Hosting. Servers. What? During my short time here I have seen a stark contrast between Lemmy, and FB and IG. I feel sort of a sense of leveling up (thanks to him). I still have my accounts on the latter two social media platforms, but dislike them for several reasons. I like that Lemmy isn’t a popularity contest. People don’t post pictures depicting a fake perfect life, there is no competition for followers/friends, and no one is trying to sell me something. I hope this sticks. I hope to expand my use of Lemmy and my knowledge.


Great to hear! I hope you have a good time :)

I like that Lemmy isn’t a popularity contest.

One thing I quickly noticed in contrast to sites like reddit was that profile pages don’t show a total score. It’s not about trying to build some imaginary reputation score or seeking approval, there’s been someone even today where we disagreed strongly in one community and constructively talked to each other in another half an hour later. It’s good to see this isn’t becoming a reputation-centered site. I’m pseudonymous: if I say something here that rubs people the wrong way, it won’t come back to hurt my life.

An interesting thing about FB and IG in particular is that they lead people to show the highlights of their own life, not the whole story, so it creates a kind of hyperreality where ‘normal’ is being out doing big things and happy all the time, and just living life can make people feel inadequate. Then you get into the fake editing leading to impossible beauty standards. If I didn’t need one of them to keep in touch with some in-real-life people, I would have left them years ago.


Yes, this 100%!

I am not sure that what perceived improvement in quality of content on lemmy is due to the platform, and not due to it’s “newness” (Smarter people might tend to try new platforms), I like lemmy showing upvotes and downvotes and not just the sum, but otherwise it’s just basically reddit accept you don’t seem to encounter really knowledgeable users (even for open source, i didn’t see any devs here but you see plenty on reddit), and you can’t use RES .

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